I go through phases where I become obsessed with weddings. I don't know. It happens. Anyway, my current wedding obsession was sparked because an acquaintance of mine is planning a wedding, and I started following a lovely vintage/DIY wedding blog, Ruffled, and another, Trash the Dress [Europe - the main one seems to have fallen off the Internet] which I'll explain in a bit.
From beginning til end, here's a fuzzy sketch of how my perfect wedding would go. None of this pure white prom-dress gown, hairsprayed hair, awkward and stiff family photos in a church for me. This wedding is for me, not my family, and I'm going to have it how I want it. And don't worry about T, I'm pretty sure he's totally cool with everything. Pretty sure.
Straight up: fuck diamonds. They're ugly, plain, and are the epitome of artificial scarcity. Diamonds can suck my balls. I've asked T for a moissanite (MOIS-uh-nite) stone if we go the gemstone route.
Moissanite isn't a fake diamond - it's a gem in its own right. Moissanite gemstones are usually man-made, since it is extremely rare and mostly comes from meteorites. Lab-made gems are super cool. There are no ethical issues around these gems.
The best part, though? They are prettier than diamonds. Moissanite gems have an incredibly high "fire," much higher than diamonds.
|Moissanite (left) and diamond (right)|
However, I'm not certain that I would want a traditional setting. It's just too... plain, no matter how big and sparkly the stone is. I'd want something I would actually wear, every day... something small, but detailed and cute.
And T would get something too, of course. I have no idea why this isn't more common. We've agreed that he will have an engagement watch: something very slick, a self-winding mechanical. Mechanical watches have wonderful workmanship, and every man needs a good watch.
The BrideFollowing the ring, (I like plain wedding bands) the dress should be sweet. I love cream colours and lace and gem details. The first is by far my favourite.
And I would most certainly have a floral, loose updo. I can't possibly imagine anything else. (From Etsy, a long time ago)
And I have no idea what kind of bouquet I'd want, other than that I hate red roses.
The GroomI can't decide here. I absolutely love sleek, dark fitted suits, but I also love heather gray ones. I think gray is more appropriate for a wedding and more cheery, so I'll probably go with that. And he'll have a lovely vest.
The Wedding Party
It is ridiculous to have only groomsmen and bridesmaids. At this point in my life, all my friends are male. T gets a long great with females; I think it only fair that this be reflected in our ceremony. So I'll probably have a few men next to me, and I expect T to have a few ladies up there with him on our wedding day.
Here's the bit that's fun. All the ladies can pick their own dresses and shoes, as long as the colours are from the same spectrum. They can find things that fit their body type, personality and existing wardrobe. I hate matchy-matchy weddings, they're too fake. And all the lads will get suits tailored for them. And suspenders. Because suspenders are hot.
Reception and LocationOutside outside outside. Weddings should be no other way. Why coop everyone up in a stuffy, boring, dark church? Have a summer or fall wedding, outside in the light and fresh air.
Everything will be sweet and natural and lacey and fun. Every wedding I've gone to have just kept it to "pretty" and they've all been boring as heck to look at.
Reception DressAnd, who wants to stay in a long, frilly dress all evening? I'll be changing to a similarly cute, but more reasonable dress after the ceremony. (Both Modcloth)
CakeThere probably will be no cake - at least, nothing more than a small show cake. Cupcakes and other wonderful dessert treats always taste better than semi-stale wedding cake.
PhotographyThere will be no awkward posing. None. All photographs will be fun and spontaneous. I hate wedding photos. I hate family photos. A bunch of sweaty, uncomfortable-looking people trying to smile and not blink. It's horrid.
There will be lots of beautiful candid, spontaneous pictures and lots of detail photos.
I will also probably trash my dress - after the ceremony, the married couple puts on their fancy wedding clothes and then has fun in them, daring to get themselves dirty, sandy and wet. They make beautiful photographs.